When you see multiple notifications popping up on your phone screen just minutes after posting a new selfie, it’s human nature to want to flick through the ‘likes’ to see who’s showing appreciation for your efforts. But are some of those likes worth more than others?
I once saw a quote on the internet that read as follows: “Girls don’t dress for boys, they dress for other girls. If they wanted to dress for boys, they’d just walk around naked all of the time”.
Now, as much as I don’t at all believe that every guy in the world is a hormone-driven sociopath, and as much as I’d like to believe that women, and men, dress for themselves more than anyone else, I do think there’s some truth to this claim.
I mean, think about it: how often do women find themselves criticising other women? Sure, we’re all keen to be the first on the dance floor waving our hair around screaming ‘Who Run The World’ at the top of our lungs, and jumping on the compliment bandwagon in the ladies toilets after a few drinks, but where does that female empowerment disappear to just moments later?
It only takes one nasty thought about someone’s outfit, or a bitchy comment about someone’s private life for us to reverse all of that. There’s no point us talking about feminism like we know what it means if we’re not going to have each other’s backs at the end of it all.
Thus, we buy things we don’t need with money we don’t have to impress people we don’t like, and what do we really get out of it?
Men are simpler. They think something, they say it. They think you look nice in a photo, they’ll ‘like’ it. And that, my friend, is as complicated as it gets. But women? Well, far too often there’s some back story or negative thought about the person in the photograph that prevents us from throwing caution to the wind and just hitting the like button anyway. Some would call it preoccupation, others would call it jealousy.
Whatever you think about the quote above, here’s a better one that I personally think we should all live by:
“Behind every successful woman is a tribe of other successful women who have her back”.
If another women looks nice in her photo, like it. Comment if you want – knock yourself out. Tell her she looks nice even if she looks nicer than you. Tell her you’re glad she’s happy, even if you’re not as happy yourself. Tell her she’s beautiful, and you will feel more beautiful in yourself just for saying it, and that, ultimately, is one of the greatest gifts we have.
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